You’re meeting someone new. Maybe it’s a co-worker, a friend of a friend, or someone at a social event. You want to make a good impression—but you also want it to feel real, not forced.
So, how do you connect quickly, without overthinking it?
Let’s keep it simple and honest.
1. Start with Genuine Curiosity
People can tell when you’re just making small talk vs. when you actually care.
Ask something real:
- “What brought you here today?”
- “What do you enjoy doing outside of work?”
- “How did you get into that?”
The trick is to ask open-ended questions—and then really listen.
2. Match Their Energy (Without Imitating)
If someone’s more laid-back, you don’t need to come in full of high energy. And if they’re excited, it’s okay to let your enthusiasm show.
Matching someone’s pace and tone creates a sense of comfort. It says, “I see you, and I’m meeting you where you are.”
3. Look for Common Ground
Connection often happens in the little overlaps:
- Shared interests
- Similar experiences
- Even mutual awkwardness (yes, that can be bonding!)
You don’t need to have everything in common. You just need one thread to pull on.
4. Be Present, Not Perfect
You don’t need to impress. You just need to show up.
People remember how you made them feel—not how flawless your conversation was.
So try this:
- Put your phone away
- Make eye contact
- Nod or respond to show you’re listening
Those little things go a long way.
What You Can Try Today:
- Next time you meet someone new, ask one question you genuinely care about.
- Notice their energy and gently match it.
- Focus on being interested, not interesting.
